So we have all been in one of those situations where we meet or start talking to this new girl, but halfway along(if it even reaches halfway) the conversation we kinda run out of what to say. I know it can be quite displeasing and uncomfortable, especially when the awkward silence or disjointed small talk kicks in.
The truth is there might actually be some chemistry going on between you two but the conversation is just flowing or aligning properly. Yes I know I know, embarrassing right? I mean how can you expect to have a relationship with someone when you can’t even have a decent naturally flowing conversation?
Why is this such a huge turnoff for girls?
Most girls aren’t stupid, they totally understand that having a conversation with a total stranger can be very difficult sometimes but it’s one of those things you have to man up, learn and get over it. By learning and doing your homework you’ll realize how simple it is to have a nicely flowing conversation with anyone.
And being honest, if a guy can’t hold a conversation going fluently with a lady without it going in an awkward direction then what else exactly can he do without it straying sideways.
But all jokes aside now, having a free-flowing conversation is kinda the only way I think you can get to know someone better if you’re just meeting them for the first time. it is also the way to know if a guy is a shy type.
Ways On How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl
If truly you are feeling something for a girl, then I bet you the best way to win her heart is being able to have a good and healthy conversation with her. Girls love to and always want to talk, it is like this thing every girl is born with so why not utilize it.
1. Be prepared
If you show up for a date or enter into a conversation not having anything to talk about, you’re going to fall flat. You have to be prepared for all different types of conversations if you want to keep a conversation going with a girl.
Not only do you have to be prepared for topics, but you have to be in a mindset that is prepared to be calm and collected.
2. Talk about her interests
You know what they say, if you really want to know someone, try to ask them what they love and not the typical “what do you do for a living.” I mean why would you want to talk about work when trying to know me?
Such questions bring up memories of stress at work and can be a huge turn-off for some girls. But when you ask about what they like, just sit back and watch them go on autopilot as they’ll tell you everything and even be in a good mood.
3. Stick with the topic she talks so much about
One mistake most guys make is switching the context of the conversation just when she’s actually starting to get excited. I know the reason for the switch is usually the fear of the conversation going dead awkwardly. We always want to do everything in our power to keep the talking going.
The truth is that switching actually creates the opposite effect because now she’s kinda bummed you didn’t let her tell you everything on that topic, and girls love to tell their entire story. Also, you run out of things to say immediately because you’ve used all your backups.
4. Ask questions
The surest way to keep your lady talking is persistent questioning. By asking questions, we don’t mean asking questions like in an interview session. Ask her questions related to her interests like her favorite artist, and take it from there by asking if she’s ever seen them in concerts.
However, asking such questions doesn’t only keep her talking, it also gives space to new topics as shell definitely reveals some things you can use to ask more questions. So while asking a question, keep your ears abrupt for other questions hints.
5. Never interrupt her when she’s talking
Of course, it can be difficult not to perch in when an idea relating to what she’s saying pops in your head. it is even more difficult when you don’t want to forget, so you try to spit it out immediately. Just try to hold it in and avoid interrupting. (for some reason, girls see that as being rude) But if you hold it in until she finishes, she won’t like you’re trying to tell her to shut up and listen to what you have to say.
6. Ask open-ended questions
You should by all means avoid ‘yes’ or ‘no’ questions and stick with open-ended ones which give her room to elaborate more. If you ask yes or no questions, you’re limiting her to only those two words and the point of this article is to keep the conversation lasting.
To successfully win a girl over you need to have a good and engaging conversation going. But if you’re afraid the conversation might go flat quickly, then following the above tips on how to keep a conversation going with a girl would be of great interest to you.